Is there something about meeting someone too early?

Jani is working, which means that we got up at a decent time even though it's Sunday. I have two hours to be alone and do things that I generally like to do when I'm alone. Listening to Jamie Cullum or Stereophonics, for example, and read.

Something has been on my mind in the last couple of days. Is there really something about meeting someone too early? Patvaros - my first ever 'boyfriend' and the partner in my first kiss - had his birthday this Friday and he invited lots of people from our high school to join him at the opening party of his faculty. I called him on Wednesday to tell him I was going and before we hung up, I had said that I would call him or his girlfriend (who was also in our year) if I did not manage to find them in the crowd. Emese?, he asked. Emese, I replied. We broke up like a month ago, he said. Then a couple of sentences on the lines of "I don't believe it" and "you must be joking" followed.

They have been together for 4.5 years, meaning that they got together at the age of 21. Sure, there are couples that get together at the age of 20 and get married and start a family etc. I haven't read any statistics about whether they stay together and split up after a couple of years or more. My grandma met my grandfather at the age of 15, or so I assume because she gave birth to my father at the age of 16, but that's a totally different generation. With Peti and Emese splitting up, the one but last such couple in my surroundings broke up. The last one is Nadia and Urtah, an Indonesian couple, who have been together since the first year of AC (the age of 17) and got married this year, but they are from a very different culture. It seems that in my immediate surroundings and my culture, my generation fails in relationships, which started in the beginning of their twenties.

Is that because we hadn't seen enough before we got into these relationships? Is it because we are overly curious about what it might be like with someone else and fail to recognize the value of our current relationship? Do our parents fail to teach us that you can have a crush on someone else while being with your loved one and this is something that is quite unavoidable and that staying with someone is a decision and not a question of a crush? (Thanks, Joram's mom, for replacing mine for that night.) Or do we make the wrong choices in terms of chosing our partner at that age and even if we met years later, it wouldn't work out? Interestingly, one of my colleagues, Nóra married the guy whom she went out with at the age of 20 for two years, then they broke up for 3 years and now they are married. And later, do we only hold on to someone because we are scared of being alone? Or because we do not want to lose all the effort that we have put into the relationship, and we rather make the compromises we have to?

Are all relationships that start at the beginning of our twenties doomed? (Hm, or are all relationships doomed?)